Dr Reason asks.......

Why do people stay in abusive relationships? It always boggled my mind that people will stay in a physical and/or mental abusive relationship. For that matter do you believe in mental abuse? Share ya thoughts

Dr Reason asks.......

Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need. ~Margaret Mead

We all have had those moments when we don't answer are phones when that call comes. Whether its cause we don't wanna be bothered, we just want to be trusted, or simply we want them to realize that they can be replaced. What makes a person want this attention? Is it a self-esteem boost? Share ya thoughts

Girls Who Kiss Girls And Like It....

Nothing brings out the sheer joy in males like girls kissing girls. (Well, maybe except for threesomes and the same thing ends up happening) In many eyes it IS perfectly OK for girls to kiss girls and like it. Katy Perry said so. (See above). And it is the greatest of eye candy for males to see females to engage in quasi/psuedo lesbian activities. What are your thoughts?

That's Not How I Met You...

Moment of truth time. What happens when your significant other "gets too comfortable"? What the hell am I talking about you ask? You KNOW what I'm talking about. When your significant other starts to pack on the pounds. When they start getting lazy because they don't have to "impress" you anymore. When it's fried foods over fitness. Is it not reasonable to expect your significant other to stay in shape? To keep that curvy or muscular body they had when you met them? Comment!

Dr Reason asks.......

How far does ambition go for a suitable mate? I mean lets face it coming out of a recession not everyone is blessed to be stable economically. For that matter some people are earning money doing things that society might find to be "beneath" them. So, do you just write em off because there not where they're supposed to be in life? Or, do you say "hey they're trying hard" and give them a shot anyway?

Can Cheating Be Justified?

This is just a quick post to coincide with the new poll. Do you think cheating can ever be justified? Is there ever a good excuse? Let us know! Leave your comments under the post and make sure to hit the poll!

Dr. Cel's Random Post

This is a blog for ALL and ALL are welcome to comment on this post. My cousin sent me this link and I thought it would be interesting to get opinions on it. Doesn't matter if you're black, white, purple, yellow, red, orange...etc..

http://clutchmagonline.com/newsgossipinfo/8-reasons-black-men-are-still-under-attack/

If It Isn't Love:

Don't make an excuses for a love that's not right for you!


I borrowed this from: http://www.forharriet.com/2010/09/if-it-isnt-love-dont-make-excuses-for.html



Did you ever offer your love in a shaky situation because you thought you would be able to control it? Seriously. Did you ever date or try to woo someone or allow yourself to BE wooed by someone whom you KNOW good and well is not a match for you? You knew they were too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, too broke, too stupid, too ugly, too country, too ghetto, too weird, too quiet, too loud, too corny or just too wack for you. Or maybe on a more mellow note you guys just did NOT share the same values, cares concerns or general ideas about life? But you pursued them anyway? Or allowed them to pursue you, because you thought their shortcomings would give you an advantage in the situation? Or because you wanted to try EXTREME dating (think high levels of inherent danger), so you tried to wrestle down the most Unlike you person you could find?

Listen. Just cut it out. I tweeted recently that bending over backwards to slide under a bar set too low really does leave you in "limbo". It's unnatural, just like being in over your head. Why do you think that just because you have to dumb down, slow down or shrink for someone that you can control them? They are controlling YOU. You’re the one sitting in the “special class” of love when you should be in the honors program. Not them. They are overachieving and everyone involved knows it. And guess what? They are human beings. And that means you can’t control what they do. AND, just as you are covering for them and hovering over them? Another person is willing to do the same thing. SO: while you are steady settling and trying to fit a round peg into a square hole, your slacker boo may ACTUALLY get tired of YOU and move on to the next charitable lover, making YOU feel “settled for”! You see where I am going with this? Stop slumming. Or at least stop trying to make romance with someone that you have to CHANGE in order to love. If you don’t even RESPECT them it isn’t love. If your description of them is full of “if onlys” it isn’t love. If you are waiting for them to DO something or to STOP doing something before you can love them “all the way”, it isn’t love. It’s obsession. Or perceived ownership. Or some other foolishness that is going to leave you brokenhearted or mad as hell when it doesn’t work out. Because it won’t.

You can't drag a person to the top of your mountain. They must be willing to climb their own. Can you imagine literally climbing a mountain trying to DRAG your significant other to the top with you because they are unwilling to even move? What’s going to happen? You’re going to fall backwards and kill both of you right? STOP IT. The other scenario is that a sexy mountain ranger comes along and steals your mate and the supplies and leaves YOU to die on the mountainside with all your energy and resources gone. Get the drift? Let it go. The crazy thing is that many unpolished underachievers still have the gull to live by ego rather than principle. They KNOW you have no business with them so they are going to try to press their luck. OR they are going to guilt you, stress you or suffocate you into wallowing right with them. Don't let them happen to you.

The point is: Live. Love yourself. Admit your dreams and chase them. Remember what makes you happy and allow your heart to find that in others. Be the best you that you can be so that you will have the courage when you meet your match.

Angela Ford Johnson is a Philly-based writer and consultant, affectionately known as Angie Writes. Follow her on Twitter and Tumblr


Let me know your thoughts fellas, and ladies.

Dr Reasons' Statement of the Day:

There can only be one! There's one King of the castle not two. There's a King that heads up the home, who makes the most important decisions. There's a Queen. The number two of the house hold i say number two because that individual follows the orders of number one. There's some input from number two, and number one might make decisions based off of those suggestions but, number one ultimately has the final say. A good king will be king no matter the situation. So what the queen makes more money than the king(to be clear im not talking the queen is taking care of the king, he holds his own financially) he is still the king.... Share your thoughts

Dr Reason asks.......

Can an adult male and a adult female have a non romantic relationship?

Driven from a reason thread, i would like to know if you believe a man and a woman can have a simple friendship without anything romantic between the both. Lets be clear i'm not talking about one of your friends girlfriends or boyfriends...no! I'm talking about a person that has no other ties to u except that friendship. Share ya thoughts