This was a topic suggested by Mr. P.R. When do 'gifts' from a person to your significant other, cross the line? For instance, let's say your getting married. Well your fiancee/fiance gets a dozen roses or a new watch from someone at her/his job. How would you respond? Do you go into rage mode? Would you let it slide? Do you lose trust in that person? Respond!
Ok, this is a touchy one. For one i don't believe any person should be sending gifts to a significant other unless their family or a elderly person. Now there are some mild cases were it would be acceptable and to which these things would have to be looked at on a individual bases. But really think about it, why would any one have a reason to send a intimate gift to your significant other? And when i say intimate i dont mean a card, i mean like roses or any type of flower, stuffed animals for women, pussy for men. nah real talk but ladies lets be serious if a women sent ya man any type of gift u would go crazy...But the thing to remember here is that as a mate you have to trust your significant other... So that means you speak your mind about the situation to them and let them handle it from there. Lets be clear they can not stop an individual for doing something but they can deny the gift and/or repeatedly tell the giver that they don't feel comfortable accepting gifts. I feel like if you trust ya mate you'll let them handle it...but don't just let it go, keep an eye on it. I know with women they like to play that innocent "he's just being nice" role in other words they still give me the benefit of the doubt, when we as men know what they bout, and what they want. With a "kind-hearted" "ignorant" female hell even male for that matter you need to put ya foot down once and only once and then step away. Dont hawk them cause that'll show insecurity and push them away. But let them do what they need to do, and since you put your foot down they know how u stand with the situation.
ReplyDeleteNow lets think about how you found out your mate has been getting gifts...Did they tell you willingly or did you find out on ya own? The latter...put ya foot in they ass. When someone hides a gift from you, they are hiding more PERIOD. thats when you reevaluate your relationship.
I wouldnt sweat it. As long as she tells me about it and shuts ol'dude from work down when he goes too far with it. In the end, I gotta trust her. Men ARE going to try to holla at my wife, thats just how it is.
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Yep, I agree!!! i had this issue recently and I shut the shit down! Too many holes in the story! Personally i don't buy my male friends gifts unless I have good reason to....Hint, hint) especially nothing personal like clothing or jewelry, or anything like that. Ya might get a card. And when did you have time to hang out with this person for them to buy you a gift....Best belive sometime has been spent. And if I'm unaware of it then thats a problem!
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