Why is that marriages aren't lasting any more? Why are there so many divorces? Why is money really effecting relationships?
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Dr Reason asks.......
Why is that marriages aren't lasting any more? Why are there so many divorces? Why is money really effecting relationships?
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Firstly because people get married for the wrong reasons. What people have to understand about marriage is that it's a business, and both people have to understand that it's permanent. We live in a world where you can always change your mind about anything, but marriage is one and done THERE IS NO CHANGING YOUR MIND. Walk into it with this mentality, tell your mate to their face, if we get married, the only way you're leaving me or I'm leaving you is DEATH. Most times, people don't take the time to really discuss crisis management, money management, compatibility, contingency plans none of that. All they see is that they love that person and we'll make a way....no, no you won't make a way, an once of prevention is worth a pound of cure and in this case one conversation can keep your entire life out of misery...--Mr.PR
ReplyDeleteI think Mr. MR nailed it. I don't want to generalize everyone that gets married, but it seems a lot of people get married for the horse and pony show of it all. The bride gets to experience her "princess/happily ever after" moment, and the groom can feel like he did the "right thing", especially if there's children involved.
ReplyDeleteLike Mr. PR stated above, people don't take the time to think out the REAL issues of a marriage. Money being the main one in my opinion. Are you REALLY ready to intertwine your finances with someone else? Can you even AFFORD to? Can you handle someone CONSTANTLY being around you? Are you ready to devote MOST of your time to someone else? What happens if a child comes into the picture? Will you be ready? What if she wants a child and you don't or vice versa? Because it WILL put a strain on the relationship. If you don't know the answers to these questions, then you don't need to get married. If you can answer these questions and they are not compatible with being married, DON'T GET MARRIED. If you can answer these questions and fully know what you are getting yourself into and still want to do it, then by all means proceed. But you BETTER KNOW FOR SURE.
Love DOES NOT conquer all, contrary to the famous quote. Though it will fight like hell, it needs comrades. I've seen love get its ass kicked plenty of times trying to stand alone. Everything has to fall in place or everything will fall DOWN.
Dr Cel.... I've seen love get its ass kicked plenty of times trying to stand alone.....
ReplyDeleteThats the realest thing i've heard. uh i mean read.
I agree w/ what u all said. Alotta people are getting married cuz "its the right thing to do" or because "its time". The truth is, alotta people aint built for it but there's alotta social pressure. 101
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