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Why do people stay in abusive relationships? It always boggled my mind that people will stay in a physical and/or mental abusive relationship. For that matter do you believe in mental abuse? Share ya thoughts
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Dr Reason asks.......
Why do people stay in abusive relationships? It always boggled my mind that people will stay in a physical and/or mental abusive relationship. For that matter do you believe in mental abuse? Share ya thoughts
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Some people just think that they won't ever find better. You see it in classic statements like "They only abuse me because they love me". Strangely, I don't think of abuse as lack of love more so than a want to be in control or have power over someone. So people abuse their significant other physically to display this power or control, or talk down on them to make them feel they are worth less than they are. The aggressor apologizes to the victim. The victim forgives. Lather, rinse, repeat. It's a vicious cycle.
ReplyDeleteAnd usually, it seems like the victim doesn't want to get his or her family involved for fear of the aggressor getting sent to the great beyond. OR, the victim REALLY doesn't think they can do any better. That's a hell of a combination of physical and mental abuse when it comes to that point. I think that if more parents embedded in their kids' heads that they don't have to take sh*t from anybody, a lot of this b*llshit would cut out. This especially goes for females. My daughter will know that if her significant other EVER lays a hand on her, she should turn him into a cheese grater.
Dr. Cel
yes, there is a such thing as metal abuse. Been there, and ran away! I don't have a clear understanding why someone would stay in a relationship that is abusive on any level.. Fear may be the source. Fear of being alone, fear of ...I don't know what else, if somebody was beatin my ass nothing else would probably scare me... other than the thought of going to prison for murder. Maybe thats it,maybe they don't want to leave him, unless they leave him dead. I don't know...but Its real stupid.
ReplyDeleteI agree with both Dr. Cel and Miss D.
ReplyDeleteControl is a very powerful thing and when someone knows they can have complete control over someone, they are going to take advantage of it. Due to the weak minds of some, they take this behavior and turn it around thinking this is the others way of showing his/her love and concern. But if your significant other has to belittle you in any form, that isn't love. Get out while you can. Verbal abuse always has a big chance of turning into physical abuse. Either walk away or leave in a body bag. And that's being real. A black eye and busted lip are not cute accessories to go with your Dooney and Burke Bag....
Get at cha' girl!
You know what I have to say I myself have been in a mentally abusive relationship. The female realized what she had and didn't want any other female to have what she did. I consider myself to be a individual with a high tolerance. So a lot of things didn't bother me. I chalked a lot of it up to she had a bad day, or she just under a lot of stress. At the end of the day things she said didnt bother me like that so i just kept it goin. After a while i was just like her negative attitude isnt for me.
ReplyDeleteI think the thing bout mentally abusive relationships is that it isnt as easy to see as physical abusive ones. Theres no tale tell signs that say "hey i need help". Often times i think the abuser isn't even aware that they are in such situation.
Physical abuse, i don't see why someone would stay in that. I know for a fact i would never put my hands on a woman unless she was literally bout to kill me. My niece will be fully aware of the fact no man is to touch her and if he does she needs to call my brother my nephew and me. There will be a lynchin tonight boys!!!!!!!!!