What are your views on having constant casual sex with the same person? Is it possible to separate emotions from sex? Does there begin to be a known unknown?
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Dr Reason asks.......
What are your views on having constant casual sex with the same person? Is it possible to separate emotions from sex? Does there begin to be a known unknown?
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It is totally possible to separate emotions from sex. If both sides KNOW UP FRONT what they are doing then it should not be an issue of feelings being caught. It should be ESTABLISHED that the casual sex is NOTHING MORE than casual sex. Flowers and candy give the hint that there could be a little more involved, unless somebody's on some true player type sh*t. And a lot of people are on that player sh*t. Boundaries must be made or else people start slipping and feelings start getting involved. Next thing you know you're whining about how she has invaded your personal space, is answering your cell phone, going through your myspace and facebook pages, stalking you, and potentially trying to kill you...
ReplyDeleteIts seems like what ur sayin Dr. Cel is that it falls on both parties to establish the relationship and to maintain said relationship...
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly what I'm saying. If it's going to be a 'bumping uglies only' relationship both most work to maintain that. You can't say you want to keep it strictly sex and then go out and buy a 'promise'(Bullshit, about as worthless as a 'faithful' condom) ring.
ReplyDeletei agree w/ Dr.Cel. As long as ur HONEST, most likely she'll be down just for the casual smashing. From my history, alot of women like to sneak the possibility of graduating from bootycall status after a year on avg...u gotta shut that down IMMEDIATELY. 101
ReplyDeletealright Fellas, I've had this conversation with my uncle , and he explain all that stuff to me. The only way a female will not catch feelings in a "strictly smashing" situation is if 1. she really not that attracted to you but the sex is good, no not just good, phenomenal!" 2. If the Sex is Great, and she attracted to you she will in fact catch feelings, especially if you do other stuff like kissing.
ReplyDeleteThese situations never last long... Eventually one party will get bored. want something much more meaningful.
A year! nah...that won't happen...something is seriously wrong if you doing somebody for a year and your content with that.
I Do agree that as long as the rules have been established . You should stick to them. But make sure there are no alterior motives....Just saying.
Miss D~I just think you have to lay down the ground rules. I don't care if she was created from God's jello mold. If I'm not looking for a relationship she needs to understand that her looks and or personality will not get her anything but hard manstick. And that's the thing, you can't be doing all of that kissing stuff. No lip lockin', just strokin. Isn't that what Clarence Carter told yall? I specifically recall him saying "I be strokin'. THAT'S what I be doin'."
ReplyDeleteNow, if you follow that simple plan, you can't lose. If you're ONLY strokin' and the female understands that she is ONLY supposed to be getting stroked, then all is right with the world. When you start crossing over into that "I think I'm falling in love" sh*t, like 101 said, that's when you terminate the relationship. OR say "hold up a minute dammit", and re-draw the boundaries. It's all abou the boundaries. Some women are just down for that cut action. I say "slice and dice".
I agree...100% but I also know how us girls are. If were attracted, were gonna catch feelings...EVERyTIME! No Kissing! Down with that Sh*t.
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