"What's that, he did what!"
Yes this is the beginning stages of a failed relationship. Some one thought it would be alright if they shared a once private now public conflict with their friend. Whats the matter with this u say... Everyone needs someone to talk to u say... B.S. If I've learned anything about a relationship is to shut my damn mouth. Its cool to talk bout a man or a lady you have no intentions on being with. Because that situation is short lived. Well lets say a unexpected suitor turns out to be something long-term. The point were you see the relationship getting stronger, is the point in which u limit those who have access to it. Why, because its human nature to talk about the in-ordinary. What do i mean?! I'm saying its easy for u as a male, female whatever to get on the phone and tell someone else what ur significant other isn't doing. This becomes a problem because, often times issues can be subjective to one's perspective. In other words what may seem to be a mountain today, may just be a ant hill tomorrow. But what does your friend remember?! The Mountain! Any good friend is going to have your best interest at heart, they relate to you and only you because you brought your significant other into their lives. They have no real ties to them.
I for instance have a best friend/family member who hates 75% of my ex-girlfriends. Why? Because I didn't shut my mouth. The truth is when someone close to you begins to dislike your significant other, they will never offer a unbiased opinion again. Now i know there is an exception to every rule and some people are unbiased in their advice but, be wary this is not the majority.
A wise man told me...(i havent listened smh) that you should never tell another man the things a woman does for/to you. This is the greatest advice ive never followed (only because i strongly trust all my friends). This applies to women also. If you let another person know what your significant other does, theres a good chance they are going to want that same thing. It may just start off as just wanting a person with those same traits, but it could easily end with that person having your significant other.
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I have a firm policy, You don't even know whats going on relationship wise with me til its about to end(lol) and I need voice of reason. I do have one best friend who I divulge my secrets to in my moments of sheer insanity but thats only when I feel like I'm being irrational and I need some clarity.
ReplyDeleteI'm not the type of female to sit up and tell oh my baby did this or that. But some guys live for that. Bragging rights. Won't get it from me. You will get a very gracious thank you, might be in the form of a gift for me..But tell my girls ...nah( certain knowledge should be between the two of you).
Very true. Very, very, true. Cause I ain't gonna lie, if someone tells me his girl likes wild random threesomes with other women, then DAMMIT, I want a woman like that too. Shiiiiiiiiiiiiit.
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